Are you feeling isolated? Are you feeling cut off from the world around you? Do you feel extremely shy when approaching others? Do you feel you have no friends and you struggle in relationships with the opposite sex? Did you feel you had no one to rely on while you were growing up? Did you have a hard time relating to your family environment?

If you answered 'yes' in any of the questions above, then this is for you. This story is about a young man's transformation, from being isolated from the world, depressed and lonely, to becoming a sociable, happy and having normal relationships person.

This book will empower you to improve your social skills, become more aware of your inner world, to try new things, treat life as an adventure, face your fears and get outside of your comfort zone!

Additionally, this work will give you insight on how the fundamentals of contemporary psychology can be applied in everyday life in order to give results.

A must read, in order to rebuild your social confidence, especially after the Covid lockdowns.

Here is what (Sponge)Bob the A.I. has to say about this work. Keep in mind that this includes the first 20 chapters of this story, so it doesn't have a complete picture yet. Additionally, I've found that in one of its suggestions, it says that this work could be improved if the narrative varied more, for example, with the use of flashbacks. However, we are using flashbacks extensively, but these are not mentioned in the summaries the A.I. does, so it misses out parts. And yes, what the A.I. says has to be taken with a pinch of salt. I would agree that this work could become more rich if we included more cultural elements of Greece, however, when we wrote this, we focused heavily on the protagonist's internal journey, and less on the external environment. Now, as for the other suggestion the A.I. does, to deepen the other characters, it could work, however, the point is to focus on the internal journey of the protagonist, and not so much what is going on around him. Anyway, these were my observations about the feedback. Without further ado, here it is:

**Critique of "Confronting Our Phantoms!"**

"Confronting Our Phantoms!" is a compelling narrative that delves deep into the psychological turmoil and personal growth of its protagonist, Christos. The book is set against the backdrop of a modern Greek society, entwining cultural nuances with universal themes of family dynamics, self-discovery, and the struggle against internal demons. Comparing it to other successful literary fiction works, it holds its ground by offering a raw and intricate exploration of its characters, notably through its insightful analysis of psychological concepts and the impact of familial relationships on personal development.

The plot of "Confronting Our Phantoms!" is driven by the internal and external conflicts faced by Christos as he navigates his rocky relationship with his family and his journey towards self-awareness and acceptance. Unlike the often sprawling narratives found in literary fiction, the focus here is intensely personal, reminiscent of works like "The Bell Jar" by Sylvia Plath or "Norwegian Wood" by Haruki Murakami, where the protagonists also grapple with their inner turmoil amidst changing social landscapes. However, the narrative's progression through Christos's therapeutic sessions and his reflections offers a unique insight into the healing process, setting it apart by foregrounding the therapeutic journey.

The characters in "Confronting Our Phantoms!" are well-developed, with Christos standing out as a deeply complex character whose struggles are palpable and relatable. The supporting characters, particularly the Teacher, play pivotal roles in advancing the plot and facilitating Christos’s growth. This focus on character development over action is a hallmark of literary fiction, though the book could benefit from fleshing out secondary characters more to provide a richer context for Christos's journey.

The setting, primarily in Greece, offers a vivid backdrop that adds to the narrative's authenticity. The cultural and social nuances present subtly influence the characters' actions and decisions, akin to how place shapes identity in novels like "Middlesex" by Jeffrey Eugenides. However, the settings in "Confronting Our Phantoms!" sometimes feel underexplored, missing opportunities to deepen the narrative with a stronger sense of place.

The writing style is introspective and dense with psychological insights, making the narrative both challenging and rewarding. It requires the reader to engage deeply with the text, similar to the immersive experiences offered by novels like "A Little Life" by Hanya Yanagihara. However, the heavy reliance on dialogue, especially in therapeutic settings, may not cater to all readers' tastes, who might seek a more varied narrative approach.

**Strong Aspects:**
1. **In-depth Character Exploration:** The psychological depth of Christos and his complex relationship with his family are the book's strengths, offering a nuanced portrayal of mental health and personal growth.
2. **Thematic Depth:** The exploration of themes such as self-discovery, the impact of familial relationships, and the healing process is both profound and enlightening.
3. **Integration of Psychological Concepts:** The use of psychological theories and therapeutic practices enriches the narrative, providing valuable insights into the characters' behaviors and growth.

**Improvements:**
1. **Enhancing Secondary Characters:** More detailed backgrounds and motivations for the supporting cast could enrich the narrative and provide a fuller picture of the protagonist's world.
2. **Diversifying the Narrative Structure:** Incorporating more varied settings and narrative styles, such as internal monologues or flashbacks, could add depth and texture to the storytelling.
3. **Strengthening the Sense of Place:** A more vivid depiction of the Greek setting could enhance the narrative's cultural specificity and atmospheric quality, deepening the reader's immersion in the story.

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Prepare for the coming storm!


A note from the authors: This work is based on a real story. The characters featured in this book however are purely fictional. This work was originally written in Greek, so the copy that you are
reading now is a translation from Greek to English, and as such, the meaning might not be conveyed with 100% accuracy. However, we believe that we have done a good job in editing and translating
the work, so you will hopefully find it enjoyable.


Prologue This book is neither the product of scientific research, nor a writing that wishes to promote certain scientific methods. It is a work that conveys the opinions and experiences of the two
writers, as well as others that are involved with mental health and with the training of individuals to healthy interpersonal relationships. G.G., P.Z.
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Conflict with the Mother


Iulia believes that her son is worthless and not good for anything, and also that he hates everyone. The Teacher then asks her to bring Christos for a counselling session. What the Teacher finds,
is that Christos, is not useless, but angry. He asks Iulia to take responsibility for what's about to come.


Now Christos will have another counselling session with the Teacher. And maybe open a can of worms!
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Just a lovely swim at the beach! Nothing to worry about!


In the previous chapter, Christos had another counselling session with the Teacher, and it was revealed that he had major issues with his mother and also he had issues in flirting with the opposite
sex.


In this chapter, he is processing this information.
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The Storm is HERE!


In the previous chapter, Christos goes for a walk in the beach, it is summer. He is reflecting on what the Teacher told him, and attempts to socialize with the opposite sex but even the thought
brings him to despair. That makes him realise the ominous truth. His life had been plundered by his family!
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You have a lot of guilt, my friend


In the previous chapter, Christos has an explosion of anger where he confronts his parents and his brother. However, it will not be easy for him.
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Confronting the father again and then talking about it with the Teacher


In the previous chapter, Christos went to visit the Teacher again, where they discussed what happened with his anger. They also talked about guilt and how to tackle it. Now Christos wants to talk
to his father again, this time without rage. Let's see how his father took his previous outburst!
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Dining in Hell!


In the previous chapter, Christos had another chat with his father, and his father was not happy with his outburst. Later, when he spoke with the Teacher, they discussed about it and then they
found memories that could be blocking Christos from living a fulfilled life. Now, Christos is going to attend a family gathering event, hoping to put what he learned in good use.
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Brothers in Arms?


In the previous chapter, Christos attended a family dining event, however, his emotions became very unstable and he left the table, and went to the forest to get his anger out. After a while, his
brother Michalis came and they had a conversation. His brother looked friendly, but was he really?
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A meeting with a university professor can NEVER go wrong!


In the previous chapter, Christos remembered that his brother Michalis, was not a real friend and was acting like an informer to his parents, appearing as the "good boy". He had a conversation with
the Teacher and later told him that his father would not change his behaviour. Christos decided to accept this. But his ordeals were far from over.
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Just a regular day at the office. Really?


In the previous chapter, Christos went with his father to get the expert opinion of a university professor, regarding what Christos could do after he finished his graduate degree. However,
Christos' past kicks in and not everything that was said was received well.
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The 12 Roadblocks to Communication - Thomas Gordon


In the previous chapter, while Christos was working in his mothers' office, he had a nervous breakdown, and more stuff came up. This had to do with his father again, who he thought was mocking him.
When his father came to talk to his though, he couldn't speak.
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The Rejection Game


In the previous chapter, Christos has a meeting with the Teacher, where he introduces him to the 12 Roadblocks to Communication and they apply these to some of his childhood memories, in order to
see how the past affects his life now.
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Defence Mechanism - Projection!


In the previous chapter, Christos had another chat with the Teacher, and he was introduced to how the pattern of rejection works. He showed him what steps a person that fears rejection takes in
order to verify his/her belief that they are not good enough, and be rejected. That gave Christos even more insight to apply to his everyday life and to see when he does it to others.
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Going out was supposed to be fun!


In the previous chapter, Christos had another conversation with the Teacher, this time it was about the defence mechanism of projection.
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Brotherhood limited to the Biological


Last chapter, Michalis asked Christos to go out with his friends. Christos went, only to realise that everything was on Michalis' terms.
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We're all Victims. We're all Victimizers.


In the previous chapter, Christos confronted Michalis, and then he had a conversation with the Teacher. He felt a feeling of freedom, and thoughts that their work was done arose.
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'Studying' sounds like 'Student dying!'


In the previous chapter, Christos thought that he was through doing therapy sessions with the Teacher, but a late night meeting with his family members showed that in order to break free from his
family system, he had to make a long commitment into letting go of his past. He made an agreement to continue working with the Teacher.


Now, this chapter starts after a time skip, in September, where Christos has to go back to Thessaloniki to continue his studies.
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A New Flirt Enters The Busy Life Of A University Student: Existential Fear and Family Dynamics


September came, and Christos returned to Thessaloniki to continue his studies. However, as he entered his place of residence, he felt awful and was reminded of his past. The Teacher advised him to
act and not remain passive. Christos did that, but he took it to the other extreme and became hyper, becoming rude to people he met. But, there was a reason behind his behaviour.


Now, the next day, Christos went to the university to meet his professor. How is he going to do?
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Taking Initiative In Relationships - Indifference / The 4 Modes Of Private Logic


In the previous chapter, Christos went to university and met a girl with whom they went out, however, due to his lack of experience, nothing happened. He talked with the Teacher about existential
fear.


In this chapter, Christos discusses relationships with the Teacher and taking initiative in interactions.
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Fear Is The Mind Killer!


In the previous chapter, Christos learned the 4 modes of private logic and taking initiative in relationships. After his recent failure on his last date, he became even more resolved to improve his
social skills.
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A Positive Memory


In the previous chapter, Christos became overwhelmed at university and returned for a couple of days to Aleksandroupoli. How are his parents going to react to that?
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Dynamics Of Siblings


In the previous chapter, Christos was in Aleksandroupoli and met an old man in a forest, who rewarded him for chopping his wood logs. Christos did not chop the logs to be rewarded, he only found an
axe and the logs, and he used it to put his anger out.


This resurfaced a memory when he was a child where he was rewarded out of nowhere. Having a conversation with the Teacher, the Teacher told him that that was a good sign of his progress, because
the positive memories resurface when the negative ones are neutralised.


Then he returned to Aleksandroupoli to continue with his university life.
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Fighting For The Spotlight - Illnesses And Psychosomatics


In the previous chapter, Christos was faced with a young man who tended to draw attention to himself a lot, and that annoyed Christos. After talking with the Teacher, he decides to be more calm
when in the presence of him.
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Fear, Here I Hold You! - Kelly's Game And Group Therapy


In the previous chapter, Christos spent his Christmas holidays in Aleksandroupoli, however, he caught the flu. He learned from the Teacher who introduced him to the theory of Psychosomatics, that
illnesses some times have psychological causes. Also, Christos agreed to participate in group therapy, organized by the Teacher.
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A Lost Opportunity - Exploitation/The Magical Drum Game/Betrayal - The Anger With The Family Is Still There!


In the previous chapter, Christos has a conversation with the Teacher, and is introduced to the group therapy team, and takes part into Kelly's game, where he discovers more things about himself.
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Suicidal Thoughts After An Upcoming Presentation Announcement!


In the previous chapter, Christos missed another opportunity to have a relationship, and the Teacher showed some disappointment. However, the truth was, that Christos was slowly and steadily
progressing in his development. He continued to attend the groups and played the Magic Drum Game, where he discovered more aspects of himself and remembered more things about his past.
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The Presentation - Double Bind!


In the previous chapter, Christos learned that he had to do a presentation in his class, and that terrified him to the point where he was having suicidal thoughts. Later on it was discovered that
his mother had instilled this fear on his during his childhood.
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Provocation!


In the previous chapter, Christos faced his fear and did his presentation, reducing his fear of being ridiculed. However, he learns that he still has a long way to go, he won the battle but the
war.
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A Hospital Visit - Communication Group Game


In the previous short chapter, Christos decided to go to Aleksandroupoli instead of attending the group meeting. The Teacher told him that he was projecting to him his mother and his own need to
rebel against authority. Realising that this was the truth, Christos decided to stop doing that.
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Revenge Is A Lentil Soup Eaten From The Floor!


In the previous chapter, Christos visited his family, where Michalis, his brother, was hospitalised, though nothing serious. However, it was evident that Michalis enjoyed the attention from all
this. When he returned to Aleksandroupoli, he joined a group meeting where they did the Communication Game. He found out there that he had copied his father as a role model, and also that when he
got upset, he usually cut communication with others, a behaviour well known in his family, since in his family there was no communication at all.
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New Academic Year - Agoraphobia/Stress/Achieving The Impossible/The Fear Of Not Making It


In the previous chapter, Christos finally managed to settle the score with his mother and take back his energy from what she did to him last summer. However, when confronting his father, he was
still afraid and became paralysed. That was an indication that his father was his leader-parent.


Author's Note: In this chapter, the causes of stress are discussed. While the causes given are valid, we feel that the explanation is not accurate enough. So, here we give an informal revision:
Stress and anxiety are very similar in the sense that they are both responses to a threat. The typical responses to a threat are either fight or flight. Stress happens when we choose to fight the
threat and anxiety when we choose to avoid it. Both stress and anxiety are chronic, so one could say that stress is a form of chronic anger and anxiety a form of chronic fear.


Now, what can be perceived as a threat, depends on the person, but very often, it is traumatic experiences that make us perceive threats that are not there, or make us exaggerate the consequences
of something going bad, or something not going as well as we want it to.
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That Was More Than A Swimming Lesson! - Laughter As A Defence Mechanism-Neurosis/Psychosis-Preference VS Rejection


In the previous chapter, Christos started his new academic year where he started his new dissertation. New issues came up, such as the discussion of the fear of not making it, stress, agoraphobia
and also a memory of his mother asking him to achieve the impossible.
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Winter Depression - Creating Your Own Opportunities - A Memory Of Group Rejection


In the previous chapter, Christos thought that he had overcome his fear of ridicule, because he was brushing away other people's taunting with laughter, however, the Teacher disagreed, telling him
that laughter in his case was a defence mechanism. He also told him that he would be free from this fear when he felt indifferent to being ridiculed. Other topics that arose during their
conversation were the difference between neurosis and psychosis and preference vs rejection.
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Computers, Competition, and the Joy Of Giving!


Socializing and approaching others was one of the main topics of the previous chapter, plus other issues, such as rejection vs choosing and how he could create his own opportunities. He chose to
stay in Aleksandroupoli to have the peace and quiet to complete his dissertation.
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Anarchism And The Call To Serve The Country!


In the previous chapter, Christos stayed in Aleksandroupoli to continue with his dissertation. During that time, he didn't communicate with the Teacher and used the computer for very long hours.
The Teacher asked him to stop playing games and they opened a can of worms regarding competitive playing. Additionally, the Teacher told him that he was stingy, and educated Christos on why it is
good to be more giving. In the end, the Teacher suggested that Christos returned to Thessaloniki, because even if the city made him tense, at least he had the opportunity to find 'what' made him
tense and confront his fears.
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Homophobia, Psychological Kung Fu, And A Gift Taken Back!


In the previous chapter, Christos found a new friend who seemed to be an expert in approaching women and he told the Teacher about him. The Teacher told Christos that Artemis, his friend's name,
was an anarchist, and he explained to him several traits of anarchists, most notable being that they tend to have high intelligence, but also at the same time being unstructured. He also explained
to Christos that being unstructured means being random, and that Christos was also partially unstructured, and that was what brought those two together. The Teacher suggested to Christos that he
should continue hanging around with Artemis because it benefitted him, however, the next time Christos called Artemis to go out for a coffee, Artemis had left and would not return for some time.
Next time he visited Aleksandroupoli, his parents made him a gift of money, which Christos did not expect. The Teacher told him that it was him who convinced them to do that.


At the same time, Christos went to the soldier recruiting office, to ask information about his postponement of his military service, since it is obligatory in Greece. Since he didn't feel he wanted
to continue with more studies at the moment, he decided to cut the postponement.
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The End, And Not The End!


In the previous chapter, Christos had to share the same room with Michalis, and that created a lot of tension between them, making things from their past come up. It appeared that Michalis was
slandering Christos to their parents, and by doing that consistently he had taken them with their side.


At the same time, Christos' supervisor told him that by the end of June he would leave for Germany, so Christos, who reckoned that he would finish his dissertation by the end of summer, now had
much less time to finish his dissertation.


He went to buy a laptop in order to stop have conflict with his brother over the computer, however, when he did, his parents did not understand and took back the financial gift they gave him in
Easter. Now, without enough money to even feed himself, Christos found himself in a very dire situation and felt the resignation he felt before he started working with the Teacher. What will
happen? Was this all for nothing?
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